The urge to text your ex (DON’T DO IT)

Ahhh, constant access to technology. A blessing throughout much of our lives, but when you’re dealing with discard or the fallout of an emotionally abusive relationship, it’s a curse. You find yourself looking at your phone and you think to yourself: ‘I could just send a quick text or message to check in on him. See if he’s okay. Or send something funny and upbeat to show I’m okay. I’ll just…

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Stupid things that smart women do (when in love with the wrong man)

Do any of these sound familiar? Act like someone else Test him by creating scenarios to see what he does Doubt ourselves Waste time thinking about him instead of acting for ourselves Daydream about what could happen Create unnecessary drama to get a reaction Become distracted from what WE really want in, and from, life Make excuses for him Spend more time thinking about what makes him happy than what…

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Nothingness and break-up hope

Break-up advice

It’s hard coping with a break-up. Your own mind can turn on you, and you may find yourself thinking of him more than ever. You try to distract yourself, but it’s a half-hearted effort with feelings of loss and nothingness mixed in with a  vague hope that you can get back to the relationship to escape this nothingness. The bad news? This is something you have to go through and you can’t…

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Break-ups and playing pretend: ‘This is what it would be like’ game

It’s hard losing things. I get annoyed when I can’t find my keys, we all know what it feels like when you lose a wallet, a phone or something that you owned and like.  For me it’s usually a mixture of anger, frustration over not being able to do anything, and a child-like sadness with pangs of  ‘but that was mine.’ Losing a relationship can be a whole new ball game. You’ve…

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Thinking you aren’t good enough

“I’m not good enough.” “I didn’t deserve it.” “Things never work out for me.” If you have ever told yourself any of these things, we have a few things to tell you: first, welcome to the human race, and secondly – NONE of these things are true. Your own mind can be a mean place, and your subconscious tells you things that aren’t true. These thoughts can sneak up on you and they…

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Breaking up and keeping hope

So you’ve broken up and you may feel like you will never fall in love again. Don’t think that it’s true, not for a second. The fact that you trusted someone else, opened your heart and life to them, and loved them means that you are destined for more love in your life.  But if you’ve been through a break up, you need to heal and to spend time recovering. This…

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Missing him? It’s okay to be upset

If you’ve woken up this morning and you are missing him, give yourself a break. We’ve all been there – in the first few moments of waking up your mind wanders off and it turns to him. You may think about waking up without him, wonder what he is doing and how he is, you may check out social media to see if he’s been online, even contemplate getting in…

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Coping with a break-up: Why feeling wronged is wrong

Coping with a break-up is incredibly tough. It’s hard to process the fall-out when a relationship breaks down. You feel sad, potentially regretful, possibly resentful – frequently a combination of all three, by the boatload. You’re allowed to feel sad. You thought your life was going in one direction but instead, for whatever reasons, it’s going in another. But feeling wronged, telling people how you are the ‘victim’ of the break-up,…

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