The urge to text your ex (DON’T DO IT)

Ahhh, constant access to technology. A blessing throughout much of our lives, but when you’re dealing with discard or the fallout of an emotionally abusive relationship, it’s a curse. You find yourself looking at your phone and you think to yourself: ‘I could just send a quick text or message to check in on him. See if he’s okay. Or send something funny and upbeat to show I’m okay. I’ll just…

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Discard – worse than being in an emotionally abusive relationship?

Those of us that have been in an emotionally abusive relationship and then gone through ‘discard’ or ‘abandonment’ will recognize this – you were in a relationship which was chipping away (or even rapidly destroying) your self-esteem, confidence and sense of joy. Then you are discarded, and suddenly you find a whole new low. You’re alone, you feel totally abandoned, and you want to make him understand how it could…

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Toxic relationship red flag: Being stunned then shunned

Does this sound familiar? You ask him a question or make a statement – nothing high-drama, we-need-to-talk-now demanding, or in any way unreasonable. Then suddenly it’s a huge deal, he’s telling you that you’re crazy and it’s your fault. If you’re in a toxic relationship with a guy who has narcissistic or sociopathic tendencies, then a conversation or circumstance can shift suddenly. He reacts negatively or loses his temper, then…

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