Break-ups and playing pretend: ‘This is what it would be like’ game

It’s hard losing things. I get annoyed when I can’t find my keys, we all know what it feels like when you lose a wallet, a phone or something that you owned and like.  For me it’s usually a mixture of anger, frustration over not being able to do anything, and a child-like sadness with pangs of  ‘but that was mine.’ Losing a relationship can be a whole new ball game. You’ve…

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Do you wake up thinking of him?

It can be hard when you’ve been through a break-up.  Sometimes you reach the point where everyone around you thinks you’re “okay” and you’ve moved along. But really your mind is ‘stuck’ and you can’t seem to move from where you are. You wake up and your first few thoughts of the day are about him. You have moments, such as this, where you almost don’t feel you are in…

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Thinking you aren’t good enough

“I’m not good enough.” “I didn’t deserve it.” “Things never work out for me.” If you have ever told yourself any of these things, we have a few things to tell you: first, welcome to the human race, and secondly – NONE of these things are true. Your own mind can be a mean place, and your subconscious tells you things that aren’t true. These thoughts can sneak up on you and they…

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Breaking up and keeping hope

So you’ve broken up and you may feel like you will never fall in love again. Don’t think that it’s true, not for a second. The fact that you trusted someone else, opened your heart and life to them, and loved them means that you are destined for more love in your life.  But if you’ve been through a break up, you need to heal and to spend time recovering. This…

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Missing him? It’s okay to be upset

If you’ve woken up this morning and you are missing him, give yourself a break. We’ve all been there – in the first few moments of waking up your mind wanders off and it turns to him. You may think about waking up without him, wonder what he is doing and how he is, you may check out social media to see if he’s been online, even contemplate getting in…

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Coping with a break-up: Why feeling wronged is wrong

Coping with a break-up is incredibly tough. It’s hard to process the fall-out when a relationship breaks down. You feel sad, potentially regretful, possibly resentful – frequently a combination of all three, by the boatload. You’re allowed to feel sad. You thought your life was going in one direction but instead, for whatever reasons, it’s going in another. But feeling wronged, telling people how you are the ‘victim’ of the break-up,…

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