Discard: When you wish you could (also) just flick a switch…

Discard flick the switch

I previously wrote about the discard phase and some things to avoid if you’re experiencing the fallout of being discarded.  If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship then you will know about discard, and how crushing it feels. Because it’s so sudden and so definite – it’s not like a ‘normal’ relationship where someone storms off to get some space, to be upset and to mull things over. The strange…

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Nothingness and break-up hope

Break-up advice

It’s hard coping with a break-up. Your own mind can turn on you, and you may find yourself thinking of him more than ever. You try to distract yourself, but it’s a half-hearted effort with feelings of loss and nothingness mixed in with a  vague hope that you can get back to the relationship to escape this nothingness. The bad news? This is something you have to go through and you can’t…

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Do you wake up thinking of him?

It can be hard when you’ve been through a break-up.  Sometimes you reach the point where everyone around you thinks you’re “okay” and you’ve moved along. But really your mind is ‘stuck’ and you can’t seem to move from where you are. You wake up and your first few thoughts of the day are about him. You have moments, such as this, where you almost don’t feel you are in…

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Breaking up and keeping hope

So you’ve broken up and you may feel like you will never fall in love again. Don’t think that it’s true, not for a second. The fact that you trusted someone else, opened your heart and life to them, and loved them means that you are destined for more love in your life.  But if you’ve been through a break up, you need to heal and to spend time recovering. This…

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